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By Akinlabi Abdulkabeer
It is usual for an uncle or elder brother in our society to tell his growing nieces, sisters, female cousins when they try to protect hide private parts from him:
“What are you now hiding from me? Hmm… this girl is turning something else o. It is me you are hiding your body from. For your information, I bathed you naked when you were growing, I took you to school after dressing you up. Even check the mark on your chest there is an injury there I rushed you to the hospital when it happened and I was the one doing the cleansing daily. This is the chest you are now hiding from me, you better stop deceiving yourself.”
The above is the real life comment from an uncle and a common one in our society, especially the brothers who are not very conversant of what religions say regarding the privacy of female children and ladies.
My own comment is: even Professor Soyinka came to faculty of Art, UI and said he couldn’t recognize it again due to restructuring. There are many roads in Ibadan that I couldn’t recognize again after the Akala government left the state. So the fact that I was there when Mokola round about was a single lane does not mean I should be the one to control it when it is now an over-head bridge.
Uncles and brothers, gone are the days when Molete road was just a smooth surfaced way. Now it is an over-head restructured construction that even if the former Ibadan strongman wakes up from the grave, he wouldn’t recognize it again.
Taking you back to our culture before it was bastardized, it was the norm in Yoruba land that when a lady got to a stage in life, she couldn’t take her baths in the public area no matter what the situation was or how poverty engulfed her family, that she couldn’t even get a private bathroom. She was expected to hide in a bush to protect her privacy. If not for bastardized cultural changes in the name of civilization and socialisation, when many parts of the female body are no longer private, she is expected to remain properly clothed and expose nothing to anyone, no matter how the relationship is except her husband.
Let me enter from Islamic point of view, children from same parentsof different gender are expected to be separated from the bed and room at age 10. The wisdom is Godly and the reason is divine. But to my common sense, it is to curb and prevent sexual immorality that can emerge between brothers and sisters.
Are you wiser than the divine prophet and God?
Going back to uncle or brother that wants to see a “reconstructed Jerusalem”. It is not a lie that when she was a baby, she had a wound which you cleansed, but the present state of where you want to see now is not the same as the old injury you cleaned. Even the value of a $100 three years ago is never the same today.
Your Lagos roads in the days of Tinubu are not the same in the days of Fashola, you better no let your eyes see what if they ask you 3+6, you will just be answering 2. Even if they ask you 7 and 9.
My dear sister, it is a common gist and norm amongst you and your friends to think that he is your cousin, he is your nephew so your sanctuary should not be a holy land. Your body is a temple of the Lord, better not defile the place of sacredness.
I am not ignorant of the fact that plenty sisters have even gone beyond exposing their private parts to uncles, rather it is to the public. Let me look further at the societal sickness and let you know that even females are falling ‘in love’ with their co-females with a grown up chest and liking to see what is under it. You have heard that lesbians are not far from the society. So if such could happen, then uncles can also become sick and commit sins.
Change your ways and turn a new leaf.
This piece is important to orientate the ladies with these ideologies but plenty are afraid to share it, Sorry if our minds do not think same at the moment.